While parents really aren’t obligated to pay for a child’s wedding, if they say they are going to contribute and then back out a bride has reason to be angry. And in the case of this bride, the reason her parents backed out is even more reason to be furious.
A bride shares on Reddit that her mother and stepfather saved $10,000 for each of their kids’ wedding days, and now that she’s engaged she started planning her big day. As a side note, she shared that her stepsister’s summer wedding was ruined by the coronavirus, and she wound up losing a lot of money on deposits, and her budget for her new wedding is now half of what it once was. She even needs to buy a new wedding dress because her wedding has moved from summer to winter.
You can see where this is going right? When the OP asked her mom if she would deposit her $10K into a wedding fund she and her fiancé set up for their affair the mom “started acting weird and avoided the question and changed the subject.” The bride eventually got the mom to fess up, and she admitted the stepdad gave her $10K to the stepsister.
"My stepdad’s justification is that my fiancé comes from a 'filthy rich' (his words) family and that his family could make up the difference for what they would no longer be contributing," she wrote. "Apparently, he made a nasty joke about how fiancé’s dad was going to throw money at our wedding anyways and that maybe they should ask him to pay for stepsister’s too."
As you can imagine this is causing some major family drama, and now the OP isn’t talking to her mom or stepdad. She says they’ve tried to contact her, and even sent her texts saying she has “no right to be upset over what they chose to do with their money.” While it’s understandable why she’s angry, the OP is wondering, now that she’s calmed down a bit, whether she is being “childish,” and folks on Reddit don’t think she is.
- "It sucks that your sister's wedding didn't work out as planned, but it's not fair to punish you to make it 'even,'" one reader noted, while another added, “Those ‘jokes' your stepdad was making are disgusting.”
- "It seems petty but this was a major breach of trust and they didn't even bother to talk to her about it or what happened," another noted "Instead they shoved it off as a 'your fiancées family can handle it because he’s rich' which basically is code for 'we will be expecting him and you to give us and the rest of the family money whenever we ask from now on.' That’s a huge red flag."
Source:Café Mom